boundaries.

my vision when i set out to create boundaries:
1. i am doing this to protect myself and respect myself and to create a healthier life for myself
2. these boundaries are not forced upon anyone, but if people in my life (namely p.) do not wish to live within them—consequences do follow, which are spelled out
3. these boundaries are out of love and not anger or punishment
4. these boundaries are what i can handle and what i can not handle
5. this is who i am, and what i deserve and want, and i will have the courage to stand by my own boundaries
6. make sure i had the Spirit with me as I created and pondered the necessary boundaries in my life.  i know and felt that my boundaries are approved by the Lord, and are worthy perimeters
7. these boundaries were not formed to confine anyone, they are to ensure freedom, happiness, and growth

Boundaries:

 I will:

-replace my garments ASAP after workouts

-attend the temple once a week

-work on being healthy physically  (at least 8 hours of sleep every night, at least 5 workouts a week, eat healthy)

honesty

being honest with yourself comes before being honest with others.  

this is a huge step.

it is a great step.

it is an empowering step!

at work today we had guest speaker come to talk to us about psychology, how to improve ourselves, and understand our personal ways of thinking.  it was right up my alley.  i loved it.  i really, really love the following worksheet he gave us to do some self evaluation with.  

i believe this is an AWESOME assessment, not the easiest, but very vital to healthy recovery.  please do it if you feel impressed! please share it with others!  

this self honesty eval can be related to any aspects of your life, at work they were related to personal training sales and our clients and our career goals.  naturally, i related it immediately to recovery, my photography business, and my spiritual goals.  

little journal writing for the day???  =)

Self-Honesty Questions

How do you assess yourself and your performances?

How would you honestly rate your current level of performance on a scale of 1-10?

What defense mechanisms do you use to protect yourself?

What is the hardest thing about admitting your weaknesses?

What is the hardest thing about admitting you made a mistake?

Are there people on your team (or in your family/your spouse/church leaders/friends/support group) that you are not comfortable being completely honest with?  Why do you feel you cannot be honest with them?  If you could tell them what was on your mind, what would you tell them?

What would it feel like to have all your defenses down?

What are you most ashamed of? What thoughts are shaming to you relating to your performance?

Do you resent things others expect of you?  How do you deal with that?

If you could do anything with your time what would be most important for you to do and why?

today, i am strong.

and i am healthy.

and i am overcoming huge things with the right perspective.

i can do it.