story of my life.

"Our loved ones are use to the way we have responded in the past and expect us to keep responding that way.  They may unconsciously like the fact that we do not have boundaries because it means we will usually give in to what they want.  If we attempt to take a stand, they know what to say to blame us, confuse us, manipulate us, or to get us so emotionally charged up that we will question our position.  They know how to take our words and twist them around to their benefit.  In short, they know how to talk us out of keeping our boundaries…our position may further agitate them or make them angry, but it is important for us to be consistent and firm with our boundaries."   Healing Through Christ